|Sherlock in Añjali Mudrā|
OK, I’m obsessed with Sherlock and I’m feeling some symptoms of withdrawal--moody, edgy, sad.
There are only 6 episodes (so far) and I’ve seen all of them twice and the pilot.
It all started when I was just wandering through TV channels, which I hardly ever do, but this show caught my eye. I jumped in and out of the last half of the last episode of the first season in a re-run on PBS.
That night I dreamt about his hair, the luscious dark curls in my fingers, against my lips . . .
I awoke with a start and realized that I was remembering someone from 30 years prior who bore a striking resemblance to the actor playing Sherlock and someone with whom I had been in an off-and-on correspondence of late. Oh! Are kisses what I’m wanting, what I’m hoping for with 30-years-ago guy?
Gah, so, yes. And I get to watch myself doing it. I had already told myself the reasons for contacting T. (30-years-ago-guy) was that he reminded me of my college years, those dreamy and unreal four years when I got to be immersed in the heady pursuit of literature and my confused approach to boys. And a few years back, when I was feeling dissatisfied with my life, I Googled him and found that he was teaching English at an Ivy League college. I read an excerpt of a book he’d written and heard his voice through it again, funny and erudite.
He also had reviewed some poets I didn’t know and as I began to read them, that old feeling that I had set aside for so long came back, that excitement of deciphering the meaning of language, the flowing power of a wash of images in verse, the tones, the colors . . . .
At that time I was on the edge of joining MySpace and a circle of supportive writers. Finding T. again helped me realize the direction that I wanted for my life, what I had been missing.
I contacted him. We hadn’t been lovers, but I had fond memories of him. We were friends. He liked my poetry. I loved hanging out with him and listening to him talk. That may sound odd, but he was extremely smart and I liked to have him explain philosophy and literature in ways that were quite foreign to my brain. I thanked him for indirectly encouraging me to write again after a decade or so hiatus. He had fond memories of me as well, but that was the end of it. I could see that at that time, I wanted him to help me, to be my editor, perhaps, or somehow help me get published. I didn’t ask him directly, but I sent him some of my poems and then heard nothing back. I let it go.
Then my boyfriend of 7 years broke up with me, my mother died, my dogs died. I tried to make a relationship happen with an alcoholic with whom I initially thought I could just be a friend. I think I may finally be over that notion, but I’ve started up this little thing with someone from 30 years ago. In December, I found some art he had done and sent me on a postcard from 1983. I scanned it and sent it to him. I had to wonder about my intentions and I decided that he would either decide that I was a creepy stalker, or be thrilled. He was thrilled. At that time I was just starting to teach myself to draw and very enthusiastic about it. He wrote back and told me that he realized that abandoning his Art was a mistake and he wanted to get back to it. I said yesyesyesyes! And then nothing for another 4 months.
In April, T. sent me a short email that he was in his garden and thinking about me. What? I let three weeks pass before I responded. I wasn’t doing so hot at the time. My back was out and I was having an unhappy spring. I sent him a longer message and some drawings. And that flirtatious energy came up. Even though I knew I had a good chance of being very foolish, it still felt good. T. had been kind to me in the distant past. There was no enmity between us; he had rescued me from a verbally abusive relationship when I asked him. Did I wish to be rescued again?
And then Sherlock showed up: tall, thin, pale, dark curls, incredibly smart. I got psychologically confused. I knew that I was making up a fake romance with T., almost as I had with the online alcoholic, with even less; I was just working off a couple of emails this time. What are you doing!? But Sherlock as a doppelganger to T. was a lovely distraction. I could come home from a crap day at work and know that he’d be there in a blue dressing gown, or Saville Row suit, petulant and dark and dashing, challenging me to think, observe, figure it out. I shifted my possible obsession with T. to a TV show. But now it’s over, well at least until new episodes come out next year. And, by owning it, my obsessive nature, that need to make up romance, I just get to say: Yes!